When we’re arguing with our partner and our emotions take over, we end up saying and doing things that we really regret – Things that really hurt our relationship… Which is a great opportunity for us to learn how to change – So that we can grow together as a team – And also evolve […]
What To Do If My “Stay Calm” Advice to Stop Fighting Doesn’t Work
What do you do if the tools don’t work? What if all of those amazing strategies you’ve been given – The “I” statements, the empathy, the validation, the communication techniques – What if, in the moment that you deploy them, your partner stays triggered, or even escalates? You were hoping they would suddenly “snap out […]
The First Step For Married Couples To Stop Fighting
If you want to finally break the pattern of conflict that so many couples find themselves in, stuck in that toxic dance you both hate: Where you truly care for each other, but can’t stop communicating like opponents rather than teammates – You need to really get that the first step is the hardest. I’m […]
No More Anxiety and Panic Attacks – Step One
Anxiety and panic attacks are epidemic. I hope this brief video is helpful in opening the door to your journey: to ending this torment once and for all…to access the video click here (or if you are on the blog front page, click on the title of this intro first, then the link will appear…)
Video Blog: “But I Didn’t Say That!” – (When Your Partner Goes Nuts Over Nothing!)
There you are, having a rational discussion, when suddenly your partner misinterprets something you said – and goes ballistic on you! Even worse, no matter how you explain, they CLING to their anger – they won’t listen to reason! Well, the next time this happens, just think about this: (from the front page of the […]
Are You A Straight-Talker Or Just A Jerk?
When squabbles come up between you and your partner, are you a straight-talking truth-teller? Or is that just how you rationalize being mean? There is a better way, you know: you can actually handle these scenes in a way that brings you closer together, instead of creating a rift! If you are on this blog’s […]
Why Lovemaking Fails And How To Overcome It
You love each other – so why is it so weird? This could be the key….if you are on the blog front page, click on this article’s title to get to the video page, where you can click this link…
Video Blog: Is Your Partner Too Insecure (or anxious or depressed)?
I wish I didn’t see this so often with couples – one partner feels the other is just way too anxious or insecure – and they’re sick of it! But no matter how much of a “good guy” or gal they think they’ve been, it is almost ALWAYS the case that they haven’t worked as […]
Neat vs. Sloppy: Relationship Hell!
It’s a basic timeless relationship conflict, but it runs so deep: Neat vs. Sloppy. One of you is an organized clean-as-you-go (then go back and tidy) neat-freak, while the other is a slipshod slovenly mess. This conflict usually goes on for years and leads to endless arguing, frustration, resentment, and all kinds of relationship misery. […]
How to Discuss “Eggshell” Topics
One of the biggest challenges couples face is: how to talk about “eggshell” topics – those topics that you can’t discuss without fighting, or hurting feelings, or getting defensive – topics that one way or another, whenever you approach them, you both ending up feeling like crap about the relationship… Topics like: in-laws and relatives […]







