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Your wife is smart – so how is it even possible that she doesn’t see it: You told her she’s irrational (which you knew was going to backfire right when you said it) – and now she’s either flipping out on you – “how dare you!” – Or raging silently, keeping to herself like a […]
How To Stop Letting Emotion Control Your Words
When we’re arguing with our partner and our emotions take over, we end up saying and doing things that we really regret – Things that really hurt our relationship… Which is a great opportunity for us to learn how to change – So that we can grow together as a team – And also evolve […]
What To Do If My “Stay Calm” Advice to Stop Fighting Doesn’t Work
What do you do if the tools don’t work? What if all of those amazing strategies you’ve been given – The “I” statements, the empathy, the validation, the communication techniques – What if, in the moment that you deploy them, your partner stays triggered, or even escalates? You were hoping they would suddenly “snap out […]
The First Step For Married Couples To Stop Fighting
If you want to finally break the pattern of conflict that so many couples find themselves in, stuck in that toxic dance you both hate: Where you truly care for each other, but can’t stop communicating like opponents rather than teammates – You need to really get that the first step is the hardest. I’m […]
Why Do I Say I Can Do The Work, But In The Moment Of Truth, Break Down?
All Couples In Therapy Face This Moment You leave your breakthrough couples session feeling hopeful and relieved – Inspired by your renewed connection, grateful for its depth and ease, determined not to lose it, to keep building upon it – And absolutely eager to use all those new communication tools and skills from the session- […]
The Fastest, Deepest Marriage Repair: A Combination of Science and Spirit
Make It Stop! When your marriage is struggling, I know from personal experience that the emotional pain is suffocating agony – like being stuck in a hot car with the windows up: brutal and unbearable and you crave fresh air! So you go to a therapist, maybe, or a relationship coach, or some kind of […]
How to Finally Get Closure on an Issue
It happens every day, in thousands of therapy sessions and millions of relationships… One partner confronts the other over a negative incident or situation from “the past” – While the other demands: “Why do you keep bringing that up? What else is there to say? How can we ever move on if you won’t get […]
So You’re A Good Guy, but your wife is constantly “agitated” and “disrespectful”
It’s a pattern I encounter frequently in couples: the husband complaining that the wife is constantly either irritable, nagging or lashing out at him – To the point that it feels unbearable – They often describe it as “disrespectful.” It’s when the wife constantly addresses him in an angry, blaming tone of voice which is […]
How NOT to work with your marriage therapist or relationship coach
You might not have considered this, but when you work to fix your marriage, you are creating a miracle. That’s what a happy marriage is: a miracle. I don’t mean “stunning and rare” – like an eclipse, or raining fish. I don’t mean “endangered” either, although you can indeed go a long time without seeing […]
Can Counseling Lead to More Sex in Marriage?
The title of this blog is actually a trending topic, which means this question is on a lot of people’s minds – so apparently plenty of married couples out there are dissatisfied with their sex life, but don’t feel capable of fixing it themselves. Sex is just like everything else in a marriage: a collaboration, […]
